一个出轨男人与佛的对话 ，说的很有道理 A derailment of dialogue between man and Buddha, that's very reasonable (Eng translation)

深夜，寺里一人一佛，佛坐人站。

人：圣明的佛，我是一个已婚之人，我现在狂热地爱上了另一个女人，我真的不知道该怎幺办。

佛：你能确写你现在爱上的这个女人就是你生命里唯一的最后一个女人吗？

人：是的。

佛：你离婚，然后娶她。

人：可是我现在的爱人温柔，善良，贤惠，我这样做是否有一点残忍，有一点不道德。

佛：在婚姻中没有爱才是残忍和不道德的，你现在爱上了别人已不爱她了，你这样做是正确的。

人：可是我爱人很爱我，真的很爱我。

佛：那她就是幸福的。

人：我要与她离婚后另娶她人，她应该是很痛苦的又怎幺会是幸福的呢？

佛：在婚姻里她还拥有她对你的爱，而你在婚姻中已失去对她的爱， 因为你爱上了别人，正谓拥有的就是幸福的，失去的才是痛苦的，所以痛苦的人是你。

人：可是我要和她离婚后另娶她人，应该是她失去了我，她应该才是痛苦的。

佛：你错了，你只是她婚姻中真爱的一个具体，当你这个具体不存在的时候，她的真爱会延续到另一个具体，因为她在婚姻中的真爱从没有失去过。所以她才是幸福的而你才是痛苦的。

人：她说过今生只爱我一个，她不会爱上别人的。

佛：这样的话你也说过吗？

人：我。我。。我。。。

佛：你现在看你面前香炉里的三根蜡烛，那根最亮。

人：我真的不知道，好象都是一样的亮。

佛：这三根蜡烛就好比是三个女人，其中一根就是你现在所爱的那个女人，芸芸众生，女人何止千百万万，你连这三根蜡烛那根最亮都不知道，都不能把你现在爱的人找出来，你为什么又能确定你现在爱的这个女人就是你生命里唯一的最后一个女人呢？

人：我。我。。我。。。

佛：你现在拿一根蜡烛放在你的眼前，用心看看那根最亮

人：当然是眼前的这根最亮。

佛：你现在把它放回原处，再看看那根最亮

人：我真的还是看不出那根最亮。

佛：其实你刚拿的那根蜡烛就是好比是你现在爱的那个最后的女人，所谓爱由心生，当你感觉你爱她时，你用心去看就觉的它最亮，当你把它放回原处，你却找不到最亮的一点感觉，你这种所谓的最后的唯一的爱只是镜花水月，到头来终究是一场空。

人：哦，我懂了，你并不是要我与我的爱人离婚，你是在点化我，

佛：看破不说破，你去吧

人：我现在真的知道我爱的是谁了，她就是我现在的爱人。

佛：阿弥陀佛，阿弥陀佛



你我曾经深爱过的某人，无非也就是芸芸众生中的一个，只是爱由心生，自以为他/她会是今生最爱，当你感觉你爱她，你用心去爱就觉的他/她最珍贵，当万物归原，生命仍然继续，他/她无非也就是我们生命中的一个过客。

我们根本无法确定哪一个才是今生最爱，如果不懂得去珍惜，你身边这个爱你的/你爱的人，在某一天，也会成为你身边的过客。

找一个你爱的人不容易，找一个爱你的人也不容易。如果无法确定哪一个才是你最爱的人，何不在自己成为别人的爱人的时候珍惜这份感情？爱由心生，你告诉自己是爱他/她的，自然就可以爱上他/她。

如果你爱的人不爱你，也请记得：爱由心生。是你太过于把目光集中在他/她身上了，试着放开视线焦点，你会发现光亮的蜡烛到处都有。

爱与不爱，无非也就是在一念之间。

过去的事情过去的爱情，就让它过去吧，那只是我们生命的一部分，只是茫茫大海中的一滴水珠，只是漫漫苍弩中的一粒微尘。没有那些过去，也不会造就现在的你我。

珍惜当前，永远胜于三心二意



Night, one person, one Buddhist temple, Fozuo stand.

By: Majesty of the Buddha, I am a married person, I now fervently in love with another woman, I really do not know the ruffle.

Buddha: Can you really write this woman you love is your life only last a woman?

Person: Yes.

Buddha: Do you divorce, then marry her.

Person: But I love gentle and kind, virtuous, I do have a bit cruel, it is immoral.

Buddha: there is no love in marriage is cruel and immoral, you are in love with someone else no longer love her, you do right.

Person: But I love love me, really love me.

Buddha: that she is happy.

Person: I want to divorce her after she marries another woman, she should be very painful it ruffle is happy for?

Buddha: In the marriage she also has her love for you, but your marriage has lost her love because you love someone, is that the ownership is happy, lost is painful, so painful person is you.

Person: But I want to divorce her after she marries another woman who lost her I should be, she ought to be painful.

Buddha: You are wrong, you just love her marriage to a specific, when you do not exist in this specific time, her true love would extend to another specific, because true love in her marriage had never lost. So she is happy and you is painful.

People: She said this life only love me, she will not fall in love with someone else.

Buddha: Then you say it?

Person: I. I. . I. . .

Buddha: Do you now see before you, incense burner in the three candles, Flanagan brightest.

Person: I really do not know if the same brightness.

Buddhism: The three candles is like three women, including one that you love that woman, mortal beings, women are at least tens of millions of million, you with the three brightest candle Flanagan do not know, do not get you now love to find out why you can identify the woman you love is your life only last a woman?

Person: I. I. . I. . .

Buddha: You take a candle on your eyes, heart to see the brightest Flanagan

People: of course, the brightest in front of this root.

Buddha: Do you now put it back in place, look at the brightest Flanagan

Person: I really do not see it ourselves or the brightest.

Buddha: In fact, you just take the Okanagan is the candle that you love like that the last woman, the so-called love from the heart, when you feel you love her, you put your heart to see the most light on the feel of it, when you it back in place, but you can not find the brightest point in feeling, you so-called last and only love is elusive and the end, after all get the job.

Person: Oh, I understand, you do not want to divorce me and my lover, you are in the attunement I

Buddha: see through is not to say it, you go

Person: I really know that I love who she is, I now love.

Buddha: Amitabha, Amitabha



I have loved you had someone, that is nothing but a mortal beings, but love from the heart, thinking that he / she will love this life, when you feel you love her, you love the feel of his heart / her most valuable, when all things under the original, life continued, his / her is nothing more than a passing our lives.

We can not determine which one is the love this life, if you do not know how to treasure, your side of this love you / you love, one day, will be passing around you.

Find a person you love is not easy, to find a person who loves you is not easy. If you can not determine which one is your favorite person, why not become someone else's love in their own time to treasure this feeling? Love from the heart, you tell yourself is to love him / her, of course, you can fall in love with him / her.

If you love do not love you, please remember: Love Heart. You too focus more on his / her body, and try to open the focus of attention, you will find light candles everywhere.

Love is not love, nothing is in an idea.

Thing of the past in the past love, but let that pass, it was only a part of our lives, but a small drop in the vast ocean, but the long Cang crossbow in a fine dust. Not those in the past, it will not bring you and me now.

Cherish the present, is always better than half-hearted